Julie Britt, Feng Shui consultant, life coach, and relationships mentor answers this question.
Julie, looking at the picture of this bedroom, what can you say about relationship of the couple that has this bedroom?
This bedroom does not suggest a good relationship. Notice that the bed has a nightstand and a lamp on one side only, while the other side is shoved up against the wall and offers no personal accommodation. There’s no lamp to read by or even a surface (or drawer) to park personal items. The person who takes the open side holds the most power in the relationship.
A bed needs to be supported evenly on both sides to carry equal weight. I’ve seen people who have beds up against the wall where one partner climbs over the other, or crawls to the end of the bed to get out. That person couldn’t feel like the most cherished person in the relationship. So yes, this bedroom likely belongs to a couple whose relationship is way out of balance.
Something more. The dark bedspread is a very emotional color. This room may belong to a couple with a lot of drama in the relationship. If somebody tells me “My wife is always crying, and she’s never happy with anything,” and this is their bedroom, I’d suggest they balance the dark bedspread with other colors and textures to calm the drama.
What’s are a few quick things you would do to make that bedroom better?
I’d immediately move the bed to one of the longer walls where there’s space to add a second nightstand and lamp. The best wall would be the one where the head of the bed is farthest from, and not aligned with the entrance.
The room needs a color makeover to warm it up, to calm and enhance the dramatic purple bedspread. My suggestion would be to choose a color palette that includes the beiges and neutrals of Earth Element plus fresh greens of Wood Element to relax the dark Water Element.
As it stands now, this room and the relationship have many challenges. The sharp contrast between the dark purple and white furniture, curtains and linens suggests one partner is detached and rational while the other is dramatic and emotional. They need to find harmony together by finding new ways of relating without losing themselves. Changing their surroundings using Feng Shui principles can help make that happen.
If someone looks at this picture and says, “I like it!” does it mean that this person has a tendency to create problematic relationships?
Let me answer this way. We write our story into our surroundings, and our surroundings reflect our physical, mental and emotional life. Perhaps someone who loves this room is comfortable with whatever level of drama and imbalance that’s represented here. But they probably wouldn’t be contacting me for help if that were true.
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