Question: I heard of energy vampires, are they real? What to do to protect myself? How to know you are the one?
Answer: Yes, “energy vampires” are real. However, the derogatory tone of that term is misleading. Some people’s energy body and chakras are configured in such a way that they AUTOMATICALLY and UNCONSCIOUSLY tap into and draw energy from other people’s energy. There is no sinister intent whatsoever. (This is an entirely different phenomenon from an approval and attention addict who may wish they could suck the energy out of others but do not have this energy configuration.) In fact, in almost all cases, they are completely unaware that this is happening because it is the default way that they have related to people for so long. Hence, it is extremely rare to have self-awareness around this dynamic. Usually, outside assistance or guidance is necessary for this to be seen in oneself. After all, who would want to see, let alone admit, that they are operating in this way, especially when such disparaging epithets as “energy vampire” are commonly used.
It is much easier to tell if you are the one from whom the energy is being drawn than for the one who is doing the siphoning. The clearest and most accurate way to determine if you have been around an “energy vampire” is if you are tired or exhausted after interacting with that person. This statement may seem obvious, but consider that we are often fooled by appearances. Even someone who is outwardly giving and gracious may have an energy configuration that sucks energy from others. If you use the simple guide of noticing when you are tired after being around someone, you may begin to notice a definite pattern. Of course, there could be other reasons for being tired, such as boredom, resistance, or anxiety around interacting with someone, all of which can be quite draining as well. If we have eliminated the possibility of other causes and yet still feel CONSISTENTLY and INEXPLICABLY drained after being around someone, this is a fairly reliable sign that that person is drawing energy from you.
Have compassion, as they cannot help but do this until these energetic wounds are healed which will allow them to naturally derive their vitality from other sources. In the meantime, it makes sense to protect oneself. The easiest protection is to simply limit or cease interactions with these people. Now that there is an awareness of this phenomenon, we may be able to discern when it is time to move on. Perhaps 15 minutes is okay, but anything longer becomes debilitating. If we have difficulty saying “no” or limiting the amount of interaction, this is a wonderful opportunity for self-awareness! Are we attached to an ego-identity of being a Noble Giver or a Nice Person and cannot bear the possibility of being perceived in a negative way by others (over which we have no control)? If so, look at what we have uncovered! Now this is an opportunity to heal our own wounds that make us feel that we have to sacrifice ourselves in order to be okay. Coming back to the subject of protection. Ultimately, the best way to protect ourselves is to be connected to a real and infinite source of Power and to have our energy body and all of our chakras completely balanced, aligned and vitalized. This occurs through a process of Healing and Awakening. When we live in the effulgence of Wholeness, no protection is needed as there are no openings or imbalances through which someone else’s energy can latch on and begin to siphon. We also have no need to be a martyr nor have fears about how we are perceived.
Mark Okita
